[FR] Elvis, Lara Croft and self-confidence

For today- one FR, it's just at the beginning of this blog. I would like to tell you that there are no “sublimed” techniques – it's based on mixture of ”confidence&no-needy”.

Club party, Elvis is traditionally on the dance floor. The party is getting started, but on the dance floor there are few interesting targets. I do not pay attention to them, I am just having fun. (Be the centre of the party – do not look around in the club too much. The party is where you are. You don't need to look for it in other places.) A short digression: Do you remember the game “Tomb Rider”? Honestly, I was not a fan of computer games but precisely I remember Tomb Rider – I passed few levels of this game. I know that later on there were more versions of it, but I have not played them – probably the main character was still the same. I am not swing with games – please forgive me that. Probably, the last game I played, was “Malysz” (popular Polish game about ski-jumping). It was about five years ago.

OK, but not about games I would like to write. Let's come back to the club. I associated the girl from the game with HB that have just came up to me – Indeed, she was 'equipped' a little bit weaker – but she looked good with brief shorts as well. Lara started with dance, of course with me (we were all the time on the dance floor). She said to me: 'Don't you remember me?'. After a while I associated that we had met before – but then I was completely not interested with her – she was too young. I have strong rules – I seduce only girls with age of consent. No sweet/hot sixteens – it's not for me. We danced for a while, then we had a short conversation - I did not use any PUA techniques. One thing I based on, was not to show interest towards her but self-confidence. To my way of thinking, she ought to do her best, not me, if she had initiated this.

When we left the dance floor, Lara introduced me with her two friends. Nice guys, but typical excusers. And Lara knew exactly how to play up with it. To be honest, I was surprised with her skills. It is worth to mention that Lara is eighteen-years-old – but the way she behaves indicates that she is mentally few years older (it is partly because her occupation - modelling, and she had few successes in it – it gives girls higher self-esteem).

She sent one excuser to bring a drink for her (and a juice for me), the second one was holding her handbag. When the first one came back with drinks – the situation looked so funny – as if she had two “chaperones” - one with a handbag and one with drinks. There was no need to use any AMOG-destoyers. Remember that saying metaphorically – “don't kick someone who is lying down”. The boys had a low self-esteem. I knew that if I did anything to get lower their esteem near Lara, I would have lost on it.

And it was going to be more interesting then. We were standing in 4-set (me, Lara and two friends), when one guy came up to us. He is quite bold, I thought. He came up to a group of people, with the majority of men and he did not care of it. He started to talk with our HB (I would like to notice that a large part of guys knowing PUA art, do not open mixed sets - especially with the majority of guys).

The first impression – perhaps, he is one of natural, we will play in NTN. The second impression (although supposedly the first one is the best one) – we will manage it in a different way. Even thought, Lara was interested with a new guy to have a conversation, I instinctively felt that he is not a good player (Even, I cannot describe you why – I think that subconsciously I read it from his BL – he wanted to hide it, but to my way of thinking he looked needy). I decided not to compete with him about her – in my head was one thought: I am the best option she can find today. I know it, so she will scent it as well. Simple assumption, but it works. I said to my target that I am leaving her with a good company and do not be bored. I am going to dance. Astonishment at her face...

Not more than 10 minutes passed and near me appeared... Lara. Yes, this time my PUA-intuition did not mislead me at all. She wants me. She is making sweet face. She is clinging close to me on dance and she whispers nice words to my ear. Loud music, so I didn't hear everything. But I inferred from it, that our natural, in fact, was not natural – he was needy. He was trying did his best to find report with her (she was making fun of him telling me what he was saying – how he wanted to seduce her). Lara seduces me on the dance floor, she initiates KINO herself. And natural is looking at distance with hankering. Some of you surely know this feeling – in one way satisfaction – but on the other way pity.

After few songs I told my HB that we change club. All the time leading and hand-holding (one hint: do not forget about HH – it seemed that it is just a tactful, “innocent” form of KINO. But it is very helpful. It is a very important form of building comfort, it is useful with leading, it gives social proof, etc.)

In the second club we danced not so much. We talked more. I told her few stories, she told me few stories (story-exchange – also very important in building comfort – the similar share PUA and HB in the conversation). The girl has something, which draws guys attention – attracts guys. And again someone wanted to pick her up. This guy used another technique – something in PUA style – firstly he talked to me, then he wanted to start a conversation with Lara – but she was totally not interested in this guy.

I put her emotions a little bit higher (improvisation) and I took a candy – I told my HB that I am going to home. She asked if she could go with me. I was joking with her, but kindly I accepted. Throughout the way there were KINO. Although, I lead her and I didn't have a space, she took the initiative – it was a long time that someone was grateful for me for a few gulps of mineral water (maybe because it was strawberry-flavoured ;)).


You can say – almost none of PUA techniques, nothing discovery – so there is lack of “educational advantage” of that FR. But all that routines and skilled stories are not important. The most important thing is self-confidence and non-needy attitude – and all about that I would like to remind - me and You.

Translated by plustik

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Yours,
Elvis